I filed a complaint against a nurse who started a secret affair with my husband. The kids and I have been?

though a lot. My husband is divorcing me as he plans to marry her after she dumps her husband. Today I was served with an ex-parte order of protection on her behalf. She claims I am stalking her because of making complaint to her employer about her actions I talked to her in the parking lot where my husband works and for the second time, asked her to discontinue her secret relationship (I didn't know it had become a physical affair as well) and I also saw her as I was leaving a counseling appointment I had BECAUSE of her secret and unprofessional dealings with my husband. The kids and I seem to have NO RIGHTS: my husband is running around like a lunatic and I am have to come up with money for legal fees, counseling; I'm going to have to figure out where to get money to find a place to live. With all of the emotional upheaval and betrayal, I really feel like I'm being bullied or retaliated against. If I'd known that nurses can be justified in actions such as she's committed, I'd have been sitting there every minute. The hospital says they have no responsibility unless they were having while he was getting his IV treatments. Am I wrong in thinking someone is mismanaging this? I just want some peace to be able to think . I spoke with a couple of attorneys, but they don't seem very interested and tell me to just deal with the divorce. I'd live to. I had to hire an attorney I can ill afford after my husband did; he wants me out of the house the day he gets his final order. I wanted to go through mediation or between us; the only thing he'll "agree" to is that I leave, take all debts and give him all else (except my clothes, books, odd & ends). We live in a no-fault state, married about 8 1/2 years, divorced previously. Married again this year; we've lived together the past 5 years and "dated" about a year before getting back together. Anyone have any feasible ideas of how I can handle some of this emotional and legal overload? I have evidence that contradicts her claims; it is my understanding that I am not committing a wrong against her by filing a complaint with her employer; we have had numerous emotional financial and relationship stresses over the past two years related to his serious medical issues. No, I'm not my former chipper, happy self, but I never realized that I should have to even THINK about something like this going on and destroying my family.