My boyfriend can't give me an ?

Yeah, I'm in basically the same spot with my boyfriend. I can by myself or when I was with my ex but I can't with my current bf. My problem is that my boyfriend seems clueless that when i moan its a good thing, but if i get really quiet, its bad. If your boyfriend is good at following directions and is willing to try to please you in so many ways, then you already have an advantage. I think alot of the problem is that you're so worried about having an (for both your sakes) that you can't relax long enough to REALLY enjoy. Try being very specific with him and once he hits the right spot make a huge deal out of it, (moan, "don't stop", "right there" etc). Just keep experimenting and don't try to rush. That never works! Good luck!