Please help....no rude comments please!!?

Okay well I was married for 7 years to my high school sweetheart, but a couple months ago we split and I filed for divorce. Trough out our marriage we had lots of problems one major being him cheating on me while I was pregnant, However I decide to forgive him cuz I loved him and I knew we could work things out. Well as time went by the arguing and yelling was non-stop, he was never home weekend nights, he hated going out to places with the family, most of his time was spent with his friends or gambling...we went on like this for a couple years and I would ask him why but his excuse was, he was young and well either way he wasn't doing nothing bad, and I should trust him..which I did, I never doubted his love, but I did hate him not being around most of the time...and yes all this time I was home with my children and ignoring friends because to me my family was my world and priority. In April of this year I had to move out of town for a couple of months because of my job and my husband couldn't join me because of his job, we talked and everything was set, so off I went to eastern Washington for the summer. I returned in June and noticed that my feeling for my husband had totally shifted I was no longer in "love" with him, yeah I cared for him but not in the same way, I decided to talk to him about how I was feeling and told him that he should pay a little more attention to me because my love for him was dying, I told him I needed him to show me love, to show me that he cared, to spend time with me, yet he never listened. So finally I had the courage to leave and ask for a divorce...couple months later I meet a wonderful man, totally the opposite of my husband, he's so caring, loving and attentive to all my needs, he accepts my children and loves them as well, yet sometimes I feel like I can't fully love him cuz I still feel something for my ex and I shouldn’t but I don't know what to do I'm so confused, any advice??